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Getting out of a Gang
"I JUST WANTED 2 LET EVERYONE KNOW THAT IT'S BEEN 3 YEARS SINCE I'VE TURNED AWAY 4RM MY GANG LIFE AND HAVE DECIDED 2 DO SOMTHING POSITIVE WIT MY LIFE. AND IM GLAD I DID IT WAS ONE OF THE BEST DESICIONS I HAVE EVR MADE. AND IM GLAD THAT THIS IS MY 3RD YEAR EVEN THOUGH IN THE BEGINNING IT WAS HARD CUZ I WANTED 2 GO BACK. I STUCK IT THREW. THANK U GOD 4 HELPING ME. THANK U 4 3 YEARS..MUCH LOVE" Mixed Chica 13 
If you would like have a question about leaving a gang please complete the form below. Please click here to read our disclaimer before submitting an email or form. A Gangster's Testimony by Artie Sesma The question we get asked most often is "How do I get out of a gang." Is it possible? Is it easy? With that in mind we have brought some resources together discussing getting out of a gang. If you would like to share your experiences with leaving a gang please to email us. Getting out of a Gang from Tony of Gang Intelligence I a girl that was Surena. Down in Texas. When she was 16 she and her cousin got hit in a drive by. She was pregnant at the time too. Her cousin died in her arms. And she also lost her unborn baby. Now she can never have kids again. It was then that she started thinking real seriously about getting out. Her child had died for some streets that she would never own. The government owns those streets no matter how much some guy / girl that wants you to do their dirty work tries to convince you otherwise. None of her homegirls help pay her hospital bills. In the end SHE buried her cousin and her child for what? Colors? Pride? Some name somebody came up with to represent themselves, like some sort of twisted club? For what really? THOUSANDS of young people have died, been put in wheelchairs, and prisons for what? Do you know their names? Of course not, because after you die the most you get is your name sprayed on a wall with RIP in front of it. Paint peels and gets tagged over. Walls crumble. In 20 years no one will ever know they ever existed. Gangbanging is a lie. Usually told by adult gang leaders to get kids to do their dirty work for them. To make them money, to make them famous, to server their jail time for them. Then they create this garbage about how you have to be "loyal" Trying to guilt kids into serving them. Loyal to what? Slavery? Everybody knows who Tookie Williams was...one of the Crip leaders that helped start them. He made the money didn't he? How many Crips have died that anyone else knows? You know who Tookie was but none of the kids that died for him. No one is going to tell me what color clothes I can or cannot wear. And I am sure not going to take a bullet for some name, rag, or street that will NEVER belong to me. Gang leaders use kids. They use fear to keep them from leaving. "You have to die out." What kind of love is that, that your so called family threatens to kill you if you leave them? Fear keeps slaves in check. If you want to get out, then you are one of the smart ones. They may think of you as a coward. But which does it take more guts to do? Stay and die for some lie, or get out and live your life. YOU ONLY GET ONE LIFE. There is no coming back. Every second you waste fighting people you don't even know is one more second off your life. Gang leaders try and make you think of your enemies as things not people. The last thing they want is for you to have any feelings for them. They don't want you to see them as human beings with families, people that love them, or that they are in anyway at all like you. That's a lie. If they can get you to see your enemies as things and not human beings, its easier for you to be convinced to kill them. God forbid someone threaten their drug territory. MONEY. That's the bottom line most of the time. They claim they love you, but they'll kill you in a second over money. Some love huh? Bloods are taught to call Crips, Crabs. Vice Lords are taught to call Gangster Disciples, glazed doughnuts. Nortenos are trained to call Sur, Scraps. You know why? Because that makes them seem less human. The less they seem like you, the easier it is to kill them. Its brainwashing and a sucker trap. I hope you will think on these things. I hope that you will really consider what you commit your ONE life to. Really think about it. How many people have you buried that you know? How many more will you see buried? How long before they bury you? Find someone you can trust to talk to. Not someone who is going to go to the gang and tell about how you might be thinking about getting out. Funny, everyone wants to say "no snitchin" that is unless you are thinking about getting out and you tell the wrong person...and then that person runs and tells the gang about you. Who is the snitch then? If you are in and want to get out. You'll have to most likely move. And will not be able to tell anyone. And if and when you do move, never bring up your history again. You know as well as I that Sur and all the rest of them are all over the United States now. Getting Out Of A Gang by Doulos For most gang members, gangs meet a need. When they learn to meet their needs in a better way, they will decide to stop being a gang member. However, for many gang members, the issue is not if they will grow out of being a gang member. The issue is whether they will live long enough to make that decision. When gang members decide that they want to get out of the gang, there are a few simple steps that they can begin to follow:
Find people who support you and believe in you. Getting out of gangs isn't easy but it can be done. Find people, especially adults, who think that you are special and will keep telling you that. Begin believing in yourself. Gangs are a dead-end street. No matter who you are, what you have done, or where you live, you deserve better. Change by Twilight Nothing is easy when it comes to change. "vida loca" is not just about gangbanging its about what you love starts changing. I been where you been and sometimes it seems I never left. I felt hopeless. I felt great heartache and sadness but in order for me to get where I am today I had to sit and look at my life, I mean take a real hard look at myself and where I was going and ask myself "is this how I want to live all my life?" In order for me to change for the better I really had to want to change. Not just say outloud to myself or my friends that "hey yeah I wanna change" I had to really believe it and want it. I also had to leave alot of people behind too, change my playground. No one said it was easy, there is no "how to" book for any of us. You just got to want it and believe that you are someone and that life no matter how hard it may get is worth living and fighting for. You got to understand that in order for you to live your dreams, nightmares will happen, life at times might hit you in the face with something hard. they go hand in hand. No matter what though dont stop trying to make your life better for you and yours. Never give up the good fight. If you need someone to talk to just ask. An open Letter - If you're thinking of getting out of a gang I know a 25 year old girl that was a Surena. She told me that when she was 16 both she and her cousin were shot in a drive by shooting. She was pregnant at the time. Her cousin died. And so did her unborn baby. Now she will never have kids. No one from her gang was able to take her pain and suffering away. Not one of them could give her, her baby back. None of them can make it where she can have a baby now. Their promises of love and sisterhood were useless and as dead as her child. That's the reality of it. I think sometimes people don't tell you guys what reality is. But here it is, There is no safe way to stay in the gang and stay alive. The very nature of gang life is not about love or family it is about war. War within yourself and with others on the streets that live in different parts of town and wear different colors. Is the neighborhood you live in worth losing a child over? Is the neighborhood you live in worth being in a wheelchair the rest of your life or being in a bed with all kinds of tubes running into you, someone wiping your butt for you, waiting for you to eventually die? Is it worth dying for? A lot of kids say, "yeah, I'd die for my Nation, my hood, whatever." But they are full of it. When they are laying in the street with their guts hanging out, urinating on themselves, bleeding their life's blood into a gutter that they never owned in the first place, reality hits them. And they know then that there is no coming back. No second chance. And that rag on their head ends up trying to patch the bleeding hole in their body. And for all the promises their gang has made to them, about loyalty, love, and brotherhood / sisterhood, that gang cannot raise them from the dead. Only you can stop the event beforehand. Now is that time. Now is your second chance. I don't know what it would take exactly. But I guarantee you that when you lie dying you will wish that you had done anything to get out. We gamble all the time. You gamble that you will not die, living day to day with your gang. But if God came and told you Himself that you are going to die in two days if you don't get away from it, you probably would do something else. Well I can't give you the exact time, but I would be willing to bet that it is coming. All that is not to scare you. I am pretty sure living the life you have had to live, not much does scare you. Its not about being scared, its about reality. Every day I get emails from gang members asking similar things. Most of them, however, are asking how to get out. Some are Surenos / Surenas, some are Bloods, Crips, Gangster Disciples, even MS13. They are afraid to go to their "brothers / sisters" in the gang to tell them these fears. But isn't that the opposite of what a gang is supposed to be for? Some brotherhood huh? Family is supposed to love you no matter what. Not just love you if you wear the same colors. There are others like you. They will never tell you though, because they are afraid that they will pay consequences, even die if they tell the gang they want out of this way of death. That is what it is you know. Not a way of life but of death. Sometimes horrible death. I want you to know that you can write anytime you want. I won't preach at you anymore. But I will be here to listen and support you as often as you need. You can write and talk about nothing if you want. Or you can write about anything. to email us. Please think on these things. And stay safe. Check out this article researching getting out of a gang. Read about A gang member's new life You can walk away from gangs. Read more... Getting Out of a Gang A Teacher with a Student Who is Trying to Leave a Gang I recently had an email from a teacher who expressed concern about a student she had in his early teens who was involved with gangs. I offered her my thoughts regarding the situation, and she answered me very positively: "It's good to have someone to talk to about the hard stuff."... |
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